09 May Motherhood- The Untold Blessing!
Motherhood is a journey that we all have to embark upon and go through on our own. Yes, if we are super lucky, we will be helped by supportive in-laws, our own parents, super understanding partner, a faithful maid OR we might have to be on our own after a couple of days/weeks/months. But I have heard quite a few moms saying we were not well informed about what we will have to lose or what we might become after having a baby. With due respect, I would want to ask them, if they were told about the nitty-gritty (cons of mommyhood), would they have chosen otherwise?
As mommy to a 4-year-old, I want to share my perspective here. At times when I ponder my thoughts over this, I feel I was blessed that I was not told about those perils of being a mother. Those breastfeeding problems, severe mood swings, lack of sex drive, never-ending sleepless nights, feeling hungry all the time, being paranoid about small things, being alone with my newborn etc – we all have been through all this and more, though in varying degrees. I refer to this unawareness as a blessing because if our moms, mothers-In-Law, friends, sisters would have told us about all these things then we might have been scared to take the plunge.
I think so because our mommy gang could have told about all these things and we would have been scared and believed all this will happen to us.
No one ever would have been able to make us verbally understand the pure joy of just holding her, the comfort of you being the only one who is able to comfort your baby, the ecstasy of seeing this little, fragile being dozing off during a breastfeed, having the power to nurture just with your touch and soothe with your voice, the innocent smile of those lips, twinkling eyes that light up even the grumpy, sleep-deprived you, the joyful disbelief when she says Mumma for the first time, when you and the baby go through her first vaccination and your heart cries out louder than her, the bliss when you reach home after a tiring day at the office and those tiny feet run towards you for a hug, the awe when she achieves her first milestones, the numerous moments when you want her to stay little but are still crying happy to see her grow etc. The list is endless. Even if someone would have told me all this prior to my pregnancy, I would have thought that they are saying so because they want me to be positive and have a baby, that’s it
So honestly, I am happy with the fact that I wasn’t told how severe labour can be or how I could cry at the drop of a hat or how I’ll lose my social life for a while. But yes I had the information I needed. I knew the best positions to be in during later stages of labour, I knew what all exercises I needed to do during pregnancy, I was hesitant but open to whatever changes I needed to make. Nobody can prepare you to be a mother except your own baby. The willingness to be in micro-control is quite natural and addictive in today’s life but this is one time one should let go and swim with the tide. Even if we ensure that we are fully prepared, trust me, one can never be and are bound to stumble somewhere or the other and that is absolutely ok.
So to all those lovely Moms-to-be – please stay healthy, have the right information about pregnancy and childbirth, be sternly positive and then let your motherly instincts and your little one unitedly guide you to take you to a different world.
Happy Mommyhood lovelies! and;
Happy Mother’s Day!